Accept this and accept it fast. Sometimes, you just get plain unlucky. Shit happens. There are so many things happening all the time, so many variables at play, the system is so complex that at some point in time something bad will happen to someone for no reason. Statistically it has to happen. It would be strange if it didn't. And there’s nothing you can do about it.
Don’t take it personally. You haven’t been singled out. For every setback, you need to get back up. Don’t get into the destructive mind-set of “bad things always happen to me”, or “I’m just unlucky.” This is not true, it’s not real, it’s just your state of mind.
And don’t run away from your problems either. Remember, wherever you go, you take you with you. If you’re blinded by the filter of “I never catch a break”, then guess what, no matter where you go, you never will catch a break. You know why? Because if you’re not looking for opportunity, you won’t find opportunity. It’s that simple.
You see, you can use life’s complexity to your advantage. Although it creates setbacks, it also creates opportunities, millions of opportunities. But you have to be alert to them in order to firstly realise they exist and secondly take advantage of them. So you have to change your character, from a person who blames bad luck, a person who has given up control of her life, to a person who embraces opportunity, a person who seizes back control. That is, control over your responses, control over your actions.
Once you change the filter, you will start seeing opportunity everywhere. It’s like shopping for a car. If you want a Mini Cooper, all of a sudden you see Mini Cooper’s everywhere. The reason being that Mini Coopers are on your mind. Previously, they weren't. So although just as many were circulating the streets, you weren't seeing them. It’s the same with opportunity; if it’s not on your mind, you aren't going to see it. If you make it part of who you are, you’ll start seeing it everywhere.
So, if you’re struggling with something, ask yourself what filters you have on, and how you can change them to be alert to opportunity. Are you struggling with sales? If so, stop telling yourself you’re no good at sales, or “just a salesman”, or that your prospect won’t like your offer, or that nobody wants your product. Instead, say, “I believe in this product so much that people will be queuing up to buy it”, or “my time is important, I'm important, and my prospect will hear that when I talk to him, and my prospect will take me seriously.” Are you struggling to generate income? If so, stop telling yourself you’re no good, or that you’re unlucky, or you’re doomed. Instead, open yourself to opportunity. Assess your skills. Ask, “What can I undertake now with my skill-set that will help me generate income?” If you’re targeting existing customers, create a free product to generate interest, engage with prospects, collaborate with partners, sell complimentary products via other people. If you’re targeting new customers, resell other products, write an e-book, develop some software, set up a telephone sales based business, collaborate with partners, create an e-commerce store.
Get your opportunity filter on. Look for the opportunity in everything. Think about all of the relationships, link ideas and relationships together, consider new ideas. When you’re down, get the “poor me” filter off. Realise that you need a change of character, not a change of air.